Learn how to live a happier life. A really great book was recently recommended to me “15 Things you should give up to be happy” by Luminita Saviuc. We live in a world where bad things seem to happen on a daily basis, where the stresses of our 9-5 lifestyle seem to creep into our personal time, where there never seems to be enough hours in the day for the important things in life like family and friends. This leads to added anxiety and stress and the vicious cycle continues. While we can't control others and their actions we do have control over our own.
Let's take a cue from Disney's Elsa and “Let it Go” “Let it Go” to what no longer serves us.
1. Give Up Our Need To Always Be Right
There is a reason we have 2 ears and only ONE mouth. Always having to be right is damaging to relationships because it interferes with healthy communication, shared decision-making, and trust. True intelligence is knowing you don't know everything and that there is always more to be learned. You cannot be focused on being right and have happy relationships with others.
2. Give Up Your Need For Control
The desire to be in control comes from the desire to predict the future and control everything that happens to you and around you. That sentence in itself tells you all you need to know. No one has that kind of control over their lives or anyone else's life. Learn to go with the flow and see how much easier life can be.
3. Give Up On Blame
You are not a victim of your circumstances but a victim of thinking you're a victim. Click To Tweet The blame game is something we as a society have become experts at doing. STOP!!! and START taking responsibility for yourself. Your actions are your own so own them! Stop blaming others for where you are in your life and Start making positive changes instead. Stop coveting what others have compared to you and Start working towards a goal to achieve your own success.
4. Give Up Your Self Defeating Self Talk
Many of us limit our own growth with toxic thinking. Why is it we can say wonderful things about others but not about OURSELVES. Stop telling yourself things you would never say to others. ie “you're stupid“, “why can't I do this“, “I'm not good enough“, “I will never be successful” and the list goes on and on. Don't believe everything your mind is telling you is the truth. Wake up every day and tell yourself how awesome you are!
5. Give Up Your Limiting Beliefs
Beliefs are formed through repeated thoughts, and the only reason they hold any weight is that somewhere along the way we decided or agreed that they are true. Work on your mindset daily so you can learn to overcome those limiting beliefs, find success and flourish in life.
6. Give Up Complaining
“Misery loves company” that's how the saying goes anyway. Nothing brings two people closer than a common dislike. For some, the need to complain is as vital as the need to breathe. If a certain situation makes you feel sad, depressed, anxious or angry instead of complaining find a solution. You will find that it's not the situation that triggers those feelings but how you choose to look at it.
7. Give Up The Luxury Of Criticism
We must give up the need to criticize people and ideas that are different than our own. The things we criticize in others is more about issues we struggle with internally. Deliberately start appreciating small and big things in your life, things you are grateful for. Know that we treat others the way we treat ourselves.
8. Give Up The Need To Impress Others
When we feel the need to always impress others in order to be accepted, it is probably because we feel that other people won’t accept us for who we are. They are likely to feel as though they are not enough and that in order to be enough, they need to constantly impress others. The moment you make the decision to just be yourself people will effortlessly be attracted to you.
9. Give Up Your Resistance To Change
Change is a good thing. It helps us grow and make needed improvements in our life. Stop Resisting it!!!
10. Give Up Your Fears
Fear only lives in your mind. It's not real. It is a learned behaviour. The only way to overcome those fears is to continue to expose ourselves to what we fear most. Only then will our tolerance for them grow.
11. Give Up Your Excuses
Excuses are nothing more than telling ourselves it's ok to stay in our comfort zone. It's usually one excuse after another on why we can't do something or change something in our life. It's a lie we tell ourselves to stay stuck. To see positive changes in your life you must send them packing!
12. Give Up The Past
This is probably the hardest of them all. What's done is done and cannot be changed. Start living in the present be thankful for what you have and prepare for a brighter future.
13. Give Up Living Your Life For Other People's Expectations
Too many of us are so busy trying so hard to please everyone but ourselves so, what we want gets lost along the way. Do what makes you happy, do what feels right for YOU. Take control of your life, we all only get one life to live so start living it the way you want to not how others think you should.
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